Intimacy Therapy with Gerald

Kia ora, I am Gerald and Nocturnal Works (and Therapy Aroha) are my counselling practice. I began counselling in the 1980s, before and during university. I then spent some years away from therapeutic practice in other roles, before beginning a Master of Counselling and Lifeline volunteering in 2009. I finished my Masters degree at the end of 2010 and have been busy with all sorts of work since.

My counselling emphases have been Cognitive (Behavioural) Therapy, Gestalt Therapy, Narrative Therapy (completing a course at the Dulwich Centre in Adelaide in 2019) and Compassion-Focused Therapy.

Regarding sex and intimacy - I have been sexually active since a teenager, I am married to my third wife, and I dated in my late teens, in my late twenties and in my late forties and early fifties. Probably ten years of dating and 31+ years in long-term relationships. My life experience brings a great deal of insight into my work - as it should any therapist.

My Therapeutic Approach

I work from a specialised, evidence-based counselling framework that integrates psychological theory, relational understanding, and sexual health knowledge. The therapeutic approach is grounded in creating a safe, confidential, and non-judgmental space where clients can explore concerns about intimacy, desire, arousal, pleasure, pain, identity, or sexual functioning without shame or pressure.

Trauma-Informed and Client-Centred Practice

My sex therapy is trauma-informed, recognising that sexual difficulties are often connected to past experiences, cultural messaging, relationship dynamics, or nervous system responses rather than individual “fault”. Our work moves at the client’s pace, prioritising consent, emotional safety, and personal agency throughout the counselling process.

Integrative Therapeutic Models

Our therapy draws on integrative modalities, including cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), attachment theory, psychodynamic insights, mindfulness-based approaches, and somatic awareness. Rather than focusing solely on sexual behaviour, therapy explores thoughts, emotions, beliefs, and relational patterns that influence sexual well-being.

Education, Communication, and Practical Support

A key component of sex therapy involves accurate psychoeducation about bodies, desire, and sexual response, alongside support for improving communication and boundaries. Where appropriate, I may suggest structured reflection or intimacy exercises to support learning outside sessions.

Holistic Focus on Sexual Wellbeing

Overall, my therapeutic approach views sexuality as a natural, complex, and relational aspect of human well-being, supporting clients to develop healthier, more fulfilling relationships with themselves and others.

May you find your life filled with love and intimacy!

Gerald Tūruapō Jordan, MBA, MEd, MCouns

13 January 2026